We all need a strong diet of self-love to develop into all that we can be. Without that self-love we cripple ourselves by seeking love from outside ourselves. This 8-week course is designed to give you insights, tools, and techniques to live and create from your authentic self.
This course is taught by Tracy Matfin and myself. Tracy is a long-time student of my work and she has assisted me in many workshops. She also teaches classes of her own on Interpersonal Communication, Living in Community, and Permaculture.
This class is about knowing what you feel, how to change your feelings to feel better, and how to keep on feeling better. We will go over the mechanics of feelings to help you better take charge of them.
Beliefs are ideas about your reality that become the rules by which you experience life. But, beliefs are more than just ideas; they are held emotionally in memory and reinforced by imagination. They become the patterns from which our reality is both created and perceived.
Shame is the choice to disapprove of yourself in some way.
Guilt is the choice to disapprove of something you have done.
Forgiveness is what heals guilt. Self-love is what heals shame.
Another way of talking about self-love is to see it as self-approval. In this era of self-help and personal development it is a radical notion to approve of yourself as you are right now. Improving yourself is not what approval is all about. Truly approving of yourself is to feel good about who you are in this moment. You might want to change things later, but you’re fine as you are now.
To understand what you want, you must first understand your values. As can be easily seen, there is a very strong motivation for something within us that shows up as a yearning for things like purpose, destiny, or fate. Part of it is related to the urge for belonging. Part of it is about a desire to be who we are, whatever that is. And part of it is a craving to let some aspects of ourselves go out into the world to make something new.
In this class we will focus on the importance of how we tell the stories of who we are and how we got here. Each story we tell makes us feel a certain way and affects how we create our own reality. We can tell our story any way we like, so why not tell it in a way that contributes to our happiness and power. Change your story, change your world!
Remember, we are the ones who sent these pieces away.
We are not victims in this.
We probably had a very good reason to do so at the time.
We were likely trying to solve a problem by doing this.
But now it’s time to bring them back.
Your future is created in this moment. It is not a function of what has happened up to this point. Your feeling habits have been built up over time, but they can be changed at any moment.
You create the next chapters in your life by how your think, by what you feel, and what you believe about yourself. Basically, you create your life by how you see your identity. That means that what happens to you next is in your hands.